Have you ever hooked up with someone, had surprisingly intimate sex, and then found yourself with a case of the post-one-night stand sads? This happened to me just the other week. I met up with a guy, and while I didn’t\u00a0really feel a connection to him during our date,\u00a0the physical attention\u00a0got to my head.<\/p>\n
The\u00a0sex positions<\/a>\u00a0we indulged in\u00a0were pretty intimate ones. Even though I had already intuited our date would be a one-time thing, by the morning, I was completely attached. He seemed even less than non-committal. And when I texted him later, he confirmed my theory of detachment: He ghosted me.<\/p>\n After doing some light research,\u00a0I have deduced that the reasons for my attachment were pretty straightforward. I wasn’t hung up on him because of who he was, but the kind of sex we had indulged in. These\u00a0sex positions\u00a0create primal\u00a0bonds and reinforce intimacy. They’re so effective that, if you really love someone already, you might as well try them out at home:<\/p>\n This position is possibly the most tender, and that’s why I’m saving it for\u00a0someone who is relationship material<\/a>.<\/p>\n You and your partner lie on your sides, one of you cradling the other one. The big spoon enters the little spoon from behind, while the little spoon also pleasures themselves from the front \u2014 either with a vibrator or a dildo.<\/p>\n This sex position is great for\u00a0vulnerable morning sex\u00a0<\/a>or for when both of you are sleepy but still really want to go at it. It allows you to move slowly and really feel one another. If you are the little spoon,\u00a0you’ll probably find your lover’s breath on the back of your neck to be tender and arousing.<\/p>\n If you are the big spoon, you also get to grip the little spoon’s tummy or breasts, reinforcing the connection and the intimate bond you are forming together.<\/p>\n Your partner sits in a chair while you climb on top of them and straddle their\u00a0strap-on or penis. As you bounce up and down on them, your partner licks, sucks on, and massages your nipples.<\/p>\n It turns out that sucking on another person’s nips\u00a0is an extremely primal\u00a0bonding force<\/a>, which floods the body with oxytocin, and if you have\u00a0the capacity for child-bearing, it might\u00a0make you want to have babies with your partner’s face on them.<\/p>\n That’s why you shouldn’t let anyone touch your breasts or nipples if you don’t want to get attached \u2014 and why you should let your lover go to town on them if you already are committed to one another (and want to stay that way)!<\/p>\n Having satisfying sex with your partner actually reduces\u00a0your desire for them over\u00a0time. It’s a cruel effect\u00a0of nature called\u00a0The Coolidge Effect<\/a>, if you want to look it up, and it’s basically the reason humans want to pursue different partners over time.<\/p>\n That’s why edging is so amazing. Chances are, you have already had sex that experimented with edging, but you weren’t aware of it. You know when a guy has you change positions just when it was starting to feel good? He’s\u00a0prolonging his orgasm<\/a>\u00a0so that you both can enjoy one another for longer.<\/p>\n The Edge of Heaven makes this tactic deliberate. Your partner lies on their side, facing you, while you turn onto your back. Put one leg over theirs, so they can enter you with their penis or strap-on while you are both staring into each others’ eyes. (Eye contact builds intimacy, too.)<\/p>\n Practice breathing steadily. When you feel yourself\u00a0coming to orgasm<\/a>, pull away from your partner. Do something else to their body to bring pleasure to another area, besides their genitals. When you have backed away from the cliff enough, resume having\u00a0penetrative sex.<\/p>\n If you do this two or three times before orgasm, you’ll become so aroused, you’re bound to have a big one. Some couples do this for as long as a month before bringing one another to completion. Depending how long you’ve been with your sweetie, maybe that’s something you’re down to try, too.<\/p>\n This move is pretty straightforward: Your partner lies on their back, while you lie on top of them and pleasure them either through penetrative sex\u00a0or with your hands<\/a>. The full-body contact sends all kinds of loving boosts to your brain.<\/p>\n This might not be the most radical way to have an orgasm, but I still love doing this\u00a0with someone I love. Why? Because it allows me to see everything that is going on in my partner’s face when they are feeling pleasure.<\/p>\n Carefully observing my partner and their pleasure teaches me the signals that something I’m doing is working. I also feel\u00a0like we are completely tied together through skin-on-skin contact.<\/p>\n This is the move I’ve ended up doing with every partner when I realize I have deep feelings for them. And if someone has me do this during a one-night stand, I’m falling for them, even if only for the next 12 hours. Maybe it’s something about the face-to-face positioning, or because the position taps into my subconscious memory of people I have loved before.<\/p>\n The position works like this: You\u00a0and your partner sit on the bed, facing one another. You wrap your legs around your partner, and they enter you with their penis or strap-on. From behind, they might also try\u00a0massaging your butthole or\u00a0you could stimulate\u00a0theirs<\/a>. It enhances the feeling of being completely filled.<\/p>\n You’re going to want to practice slow breathing with this one, too. Pro-tip: Move slowly so both of you can feel all of the sparks that are flying between your bodies. You can introduce edging into this position, too, or simply enjoy one another while making full eye contact.<\/p>\n There you have it \u2014 the sex positions that will make your love deepen for one another. Handle these positions with care, and don’t try these at home\u00a0if you aren’t going to be hearing from one another ever again.<\/p>\n1. The Loving Spoonful<\/h3>\n
2. The Nip Slip<\/h3>\n
3. Edge Of Heaven<\/h3>\n
4. Belly To Belly<\/h3>\n
5. The Lotus Flower<\/h3>\n