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You believe you could be having\u00a0better sex<\/a>,\u00a0more orgasms<\/a>, and a more\u00a0intimate relationship<\/a>, but still struggle to get in the right headspace to give it your all in the bedroom. If you live with roommates, are sharing a house with family or friends, have a squeaky old bed, or are dating a shy partner, you’re probably worried about people being able to\u00a0hear you having sex<\/a>.<\/p>\n When you’re cohabitating with other people, there will be times when you’re in a frisky mood but don\u2019t exactly have all the privacy you\u2019d like. But what if you were told that you don\u2019t\u00a0actually<\/em>\u00a0have to wait until everyone else is gone in order to get it on? It\u2019s true. And sex therapist\u00a0Vanessa Marin<\/a>\u00a0is here to reveal the best quiet and hot sex positions for\u00a0stealthy sex<\/a>.<\/p>\n “Living with roommates<\/a>\u00a0can be quite a challenge, but you can try to see this as an opportunity to get creative,” Marin says. “In general, you want to\u00a0avoid intense thrusting positions<\/a>\u00a0since they\u2019re bound to get those bedsprings creaking. Instead, you want to look for positions that emphasize slow grinding or more subtle movements \u2014 which, as it turns out, can be pretty hot.”<\/p>\n If you’re in need of a little top-secret inspiration, here are the top sex positions for quiet, sneaky sex, straight from the pros.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Both of you lay on your sides, facing the same direction. This can be a tricky position to get into initially, so raise your top leg, bend over at your waist, and use your hand to guide your partner\u2019s penis or dildo into you.\u00a0Using lube<\/a>\u00a0will also help them slide into place more easily. From there, you can lower your leg and straighten up a bit.<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/b>\u00a0In this position, your only option for movement is to grind against each other. Since there\u2019s no thrusting, you\u2019re not likely to make much noise. It tends to be a more intimate, sensual, and slow position, which can be a real plus.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/b>\u00a0You can play around with the arrangement of your legs to change the level of tightness (your legs sandwiching your partner\u2019s legs, your partner\u2019s legs sandwiching yours, or alternating all of your legs). You can try bending at the waist to change the angle. This is also a\u00a0good position for anal<\/a>.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Both of you lay on your sides, but facing each other. Again, that initial insertion can be a bit tricky, so\u00a0raise your leg and use lube<\/a>. Wrap your leg around the top of your partner\u2019s hip and use it as leverage to pull your body closer.<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/b>\u00a0This position is similar to spooning, but creates a different angle. You\u2019re also able to look each other in the eye as you grind against each other, so it\u2019s a good substitute for the noisier missionary position.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/b>\u00a0You can play around with the angle of your top leg by stretching it out straight or squeezing it up towards your chest. Try wrapping that leg around different areas of your partner’s body, like their butt, waist, or rib cage.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Have your partner sit cross-legged<\/a>\u00a0(or as close to cross-legged as they can get!). Straddle their legs and lower yourself down onto their lap, guiding their penis or dildo into you. Wrap your legs around their back, so you\u2019re cross-legged too.<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/b>\u00a0In this position<\/a>, you\u2019re basically squeezing your bodies against each other, so there\u2019s hardly any in-and-out movement. There\u2019s little potential for noise, but it\u2019s still highly erotic.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/strong>\u00a0This is a great position for incorporating a\u00a0vibrating cock ring<\/a>\u00a0since you can position the vibrator right against your clitoris.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Have one partner lay on their back. The other partner gets on top, stomach down, facing the opposite direction, so that partner A\u2019s feet are by partner B\u2019s head. You both perform\u00a0oral sex<\/a>\u00a0on each other.<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/strong>\u00a0Who says sex has to mean penetration<\/a>? Oral sex is much quieter than penetrative intercourse \u2014 and can be just as pleasurable.<\/p>\n Variations to try:\u00a0<\/b>You can experiment with which partner is on the bottom and which is on top. You can also try laying on your sides, which can be more comfortable. If giving and receiving at the same time is too much for you, you can always try trading off.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0If your bed is too noisy, why not move over to a different piece of furniture? A\u00a0sturdy chair<\/a>\u00a0can be amazing. Have your partner sit down, then straddle them. Wrap your arms around their back or the back of the chair to get into the lotus position. Raise yourself up and down, or grind against them in slow circles.<\/p>\n Why it works:\u00a0<\/b>You\u2019re bound to have at least one non-creaky piece of furniture in your room, right? Hopefully.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/strong>\u00a0It all depends on the furniture you have. If you have a sofa or futon, try kneeling facing the back of the sofa with your arms propped up on the backrest and have your partner enter you from behind.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Get on your hands and knees. Have your partner get on their knees and enter you from behind.<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/b>\u00a0This is another easy way to escape your bed. Most positions don\u2019t work well on the floor because it\u2019s just too hard of a surface to be bearable, but\u00a0doggy style<\/a>\u00a0can be made comfortable by throwing down your bedspread or a few pillows to protect your knees. This is also a fantastic option for anal.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/b>\u00a0Lower yourself down onto your elbows to change the angle of penetration. You can play around with having one partner stay still and the other take control of the thrusting.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0Sit on the edge of an armless chair or on the bed, with the receiving partner on top and both partners facing the same direction. The person on top uses their partner\u2019s thighs for leverage as they move up and down.<\/p>\n Why it works:\u00a0<\/strong>Using a chair and your partner\u2019s thighs for support is a quiet way to get it on, without a ton of maneuvering or noise.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/b>\u00a0Spice things up by getting a quickie in between holiday dinner courses. \u201cThis position works great if you are wearing a dress or skirt, or you can also add in some crotchless panties to make it even easier,\u201d says sex educator\u00a0Javay Frye-Nekrasova<\/a>.<\/p>\n How to do it:<\/b>\u00a0If you and your partner are able to sneak away for a \u201cwalk,\u201d Frye-Nekrasova recommends going old school and\u00a0taking it to the car<\/a>\u00a0\u2014 if you can park it around the corner because you \u201ccouldn\u2019t find street parking.\u201d You could also try to find a hidden wall to have\u00a0standing sex<\/a>\u00a0against (this would only work if you\u2019re in a private area because, ya know, no one wants to get arrested).<\/p>\n Why it works:<\/b>\u00a0You\u2019re much less likely to get caught, and as long as the car is in an inconspicuous area, you\u2019re free to go at it. Plus, the excitement of feeling like two teenagers sneaking around again can really bring the heat.<\/p>\n Variations to try:<\/b>\u00a0Play around with different positions if you\u2019re coordinated enough, or bring toys with you for maximum pleasure since the space is tight.<\/p>\n This article was originally published on\u00a01. Spooning<\/h2>\n
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